” The invisible power of women’s circles on the women in them grows out of the power that people have on one another, which is extraordinary.
Anyone’s self-esteem, accomplishment, development of talent, has to do with whether we have been listened to and valued, loved for ourselves, encouraged and supported to do what we believed we could do.
When there is psychological or practical support for making a significant change, change is more likely to happen. That others believe in us, or have the same perspective we have, or are role models, has a powerful and invisible effect.
The power to resist the collective comes from being in a small circle with like-minded others. It allows us to keep on in the face of ridicule or opposition that we don’t know what we are talking bout, or don’t belong wherever it is that we want to be.” (Jean Shinoda Bolen)
Who are the people in your life who listen to
and value what you say and who you are?
We all need someone(s) to bear witness when we are struggling, changing, suffering, confused, wondering, seeking.
I am adept at managing and trying to wind my way through challenges independently and what I’ve discovered is that when I really NEED help…it would be better if I would actually stop being so independent. This is a sign I’ve fallen into a well-worn adaptive pattern.
My early childhood years were a bit chaotic (and full of love) and what it meant is I learned not to depend on the grown-ups around me. I learned to try to support myself, work it out myself, lean on myself. It was ever so much easier to just lead my life by myself.
It really works for me even now that I know better!
It exhausts me, frustrates me and leaves me without access to the ease I really crave in my life.
I recall learning from the world around me that women’s circles were a bit scary because the women in them were scary to my young self. Many of the women in my family didn’t have the ability to effectively interact with someone as sensitive as my very young girl self.
In my 20’s, while working as a classroom teacher, I had the opportunity to experience circles of women in my profession. They were a bit scary to me too. I found safety in becoming a leader in this world. I didn’t really like depending on these women though. They were not the kind of social circle that encouraged creativity or risk-taking or soft, tender heart-opening work.
I avoided circles of women for decades.
I learned that I prefer private counselling when I’m struggling.
I won’t share my vulnerabilities as freely with a group.
And that’s ok.
As an older adult, I’ve been fortunate to discover there are lovely, encouraging, supportive, beautiful women’s circles.
And I take part when I feel called.
I offer to lead or co-lead circles in my own home. This is possible now because of a business I ran for 20 years.
In the 1990’s, I opened a music and movement school for babies and children. I became the queen of a tiny kingdom. It was wonderful!
I had the huge blessing to have facilitated thousands of circles with moms and dads and their infants and young children through my music and movement work at Musicalia.
This was ever so much safer than being with JUST women.
There was a kind of safety in this work that can really only exist when we all have a single focus on our younger generation and everyone is offering respect to one another.
This looked like softer gazes, a willingness to forgive, a willingness to try harder to understand and feel compassion for others and leading these groups I could feel that flow and connection between the members of every class. I was able to call that out in so many people because of the social/energetic containers or structures I created for the families.
These small groups of 8 families or less, allowed us all to resist collectives at schools, in the parking lot, on the parent advisory boards, in our extended families and in the outer community.
Time spent weekly with these like-minded folk, gave us all a shared sense of the importance of kindness and cooperation as we sang, talked, danced and played music.
This would never have been possible without the nurturing care of my own counsellors. Taking the time to heal my own heart in therapy during my 20’s and 30’s helped me to grow up. It helped me to grow into the kind of person who could hold space for others.
I think I would affectionately be referred to as “the wounded healer”…someone who has sustained deep emotional wounding and done the inner work to become a safe haven for others searching to heal their own inner wounds.
Maybe you are in the process of healing inner wounds or wish there was a safe place for you to bring light to those shadowy places inside. If that’s you, I have created a healing space designed for the exact purpose. It’s called Breathing Space.
Read more about Breathing Space here
I invite you to contact me for an initial conversation.
Have you ever experienced a Raindrop Massage?
I have received and given many. Even our pets can benefit from a modified Raindrop!
The Raindrop is a light massage but the oils give depth and power to that gentleness. It’s really one of my favorite ways to relax and care for my nervous system and immune system simultaneously.
There are several types of Raindrop
- The traditional Raindrop Technique will leave you scented like pizza! (oregano, basil, thyme, marjoram, wintergreen, cypress, peppermint, aroma siez, valor, white angelica…). Only a few drops of each are used and each one affects the body and the brain uniquely. Highly recommended for relaxation, pain relief, better sleep, immune strengthening and stress release.
- The Emotion Raindrop using Young Living blends formulated to assist and facilitate deep emotional release and cleansing. (Valor, Release, Present Time, Inner Child, Harmony, Forgiveness) A gentle but powerful process, especially when dealing with things that have been buried for a long time. We address years of habitual programming, layers of conditioning, blocks created by our own grief, anxiety, fears, regrets, desires, sadness, disappointments or traumas. What are you facing right now? We choose oils specifically for that.
- The Intuitive Raindrop allows us to choose the perfect oils for your Raindrop session. The choosing of the oils is an exploratory and intuitively informed process. Sessions can be profound as the oils we choose together are chosen specifically for you. This is a completely customized Raindrop session dependent on what you wish to address that day. Learn to use your intuition for choosing the right oils for yourself.
The Raindrop Massage was created by Gary Young, based on his research of essential oils and their antimicrobial properties, incorporating the Vita Flex technique and its reflex points on the feet.
While visiting the Lakota people, he learned about the historical migration across the Canadian/US border where the Lakota people would receive healing energy when the air was charged with the colors of the Aurora Borealis.
They would inhale this energy, allowing it to pass through their spine to afflicted areas of the body. Many experienced dramatic healing effects through this practice.
Sadly, the Lakota people lost their freedom to travel across the borders and they began to practise this energy process mentally, accompanied with light stroking on the body to facilitate the spreading of energy through the body.
Gary discovered that the synergy of the feather-light stroking over the body, combined with the therapeutic power of essential oils and Vita Flex on the feet, created even deeper healing effects.
The Raindrop Technique uses a sequence of highly antimicrobial essential oils dropped onto the back of the recipient. The drops are dropped from above like rain along the spine.
Each step of the process incorporates a different massage technique and a different oil.
Up to ten (10) oils are used in the traditional Raindrop, with varying light motions, deeper massage and gentle rubbing along the spine and the feet.
At least 6 oils are used in the Emotion Raindrop and 6-10 in the Intuitive Raindrop.
Treatments can be completed within an hour. The relaxing, healing and immune boosting effects may last for days.
- stress release
- emotional support
- relief of body aches and pains
- balancing for the mind and emotions
- sleep more soundly with deeper release
When to have a Raindrop?
- one session to balance and relax the body
- once a week for emotional support
- once a month for immune support
- once a season for continued health
Seasonal Affective Disorder
There are biological and emotional causes for seasonal affective disorder. Reduced sunlight can affect our biological circadian rhythm and a neurotransmitter (serotonin) decreases. Serotonin is responsible for our emotional well-being.
Light therapy, anti-depressants and vitamin D are well-known treatments for SAD and are thought to affect serotonin. Aromatherapy is becoming popular as a treatment now because of its effectiveness and ease of treatment.
EOs can uplift, energize and calm our mood during the long winter months and can dramatically help ease the effects of SAD.
Even though spring is coming, February, March & April are still very cold and summer can feel far away! Symptoms of SAD can affect day-to-day living for those who struggle with it. Essential oils can make a huge difference.
Symptoms of SAD may include:
- low energy
- sleeping problems
- weight gain
- depressed immune system
- change in appetite
- having a hard time concentrating
- losing interest in activities you typically enjoy
My top 10 oils to support someone suffering with SAD
Try choosing a few from the list + blending them together.
For example: bergamot, orange, neroli, patchouli + cardamom
Put a few drops of your own blend into your diffuser daily.
Make your own rollerball
Put 10-15 drops into a 10 ml rollerball and add a carrier oil like jojoba oil.
Roll on your wrists, your heart + back of your neck thorughout the day
There are blends already created by Young Living that include some of these ingredients and while not created specifically for SAD, I believe would be very helpful to them.
- Inner Child
If you are suffering with SAD or a mood disorder, it’s possible I can help you find relief, either through aromatherapy, AFT or Intuitive Energy Massage + Intuitive Counselling.
I’d love to speak more with you. Book a session or free consult today.