Have you ever had days like this?
So…I’m wondering if you’ve ever experienced LOA working even when you were not feeling positive?
We hear all about this in the manifestation world/business/goal achievement world that you must feel good for the LOA (law of attraction) to work in your favour. Hmmmm….I don’t thing so.
I’ve noticed in my life that it’s visualization and time spent in quiet envisioning my miracles, hopes and dreams and NOT the emotions from day to day that seem to make things happen.
I have soooo many experiences of this that I do not believe how we feel day to day really even matters.
It’s how we picture and live in that picture and REALLY FEEL that we are in that image we create. THAT’S where the feelings matter.
Negative day to day feelings don’t matter nearly as much as seeing ourselves succeeding even with the negative feelings.
I guess if Law of Attraction really is a law then it doesn’t really matter what I think! It’s going to work it’s magic in my life regardless.
Intention, intention, intention…that’s where the gold is.
Dear Beautiful Friend,
I have had this creation living in my mind since 2013.
It’s called Inspirata and it’s a collective of women who create purpose in their lives and prosperity in their work through staying super-connected to spirit.
This spiritual foundation, our connection with our innermost self and our connection with our eternal self, is actually THE thing that feels most important to us.
It’s our sanctuary. It’s the nest we seek to replenish and find solace.
It’s what allows us to thrive as we serve our clients, our patients, our students, our customers, our families and our friends.
I let go of my Inspirata idea when my life changed and I found myself single (again) living on my own, navigating a divorce and trying to figure out how my life was going to work.
All my energies went into survival.
I don’t know that it was the right move, to be honest, putting all my energies into survival instead of creativity. Maybe if I’d continued on with my creative ideas then, that whole transition might have been a little easier on me. Maybe not.
What I do know is that I have many more skills and inner resources now because of that transition time. As you know, I’ve used essential oils as part of the last bit of my emotional recovery this last year. This gathering is not about the oils though.
This is about our spirits, desires, plans and lives having more power and impact when we create (at least in part) as a collective.
During January 2018’s super-blue-blood-lunar-eclipse I felt a huge surge of energy to bring people together. It kind of took over actually…to the point that I found myself on Vistaprint making invites and cards for this and not knowing how to actually get it all going with dates and place and what I would offer to you exactly.
Because the surge of energy was so purposeful, I didn’t want to not do it.
I really wanted to DO it. So I did it.
And it was beautiful!
Now…I’m inviting you to be part of the next Inspirata Collective gathering.
I envisioned these circles as a kind of celebration. Together we create space to create clarity in some area of our lives or business.
Relaxed, supportive, gentle gatherings with the potential for healing and understanding. Experiences that uplift your sense of self, support prosperity and nurture a sense of thriving in life.
Our first gathering was during the full moon in March on Friday, March 2 at my home in the afternoon. The full moon considered a cosmically impactful time to release that which you no longer need.
These gatherings are not yet regular but if you’d like to be included in the next one, please let me know.
I would love to see you here.
I had already lived out and created my big dream.
I recently realized that the gap between where I am now and my big dream was that I didn’t think the next dream could be BIG.
I’d already created something truly impactful and huge that consumed me body mind and soul…for many years.
What I finally figured out was to be ok with leaving the other dream behind and creating a new dream. To fall in love with a new dream and my new life and a new way of moving through my days.
To fall in love with a new dream is to be committed enough to being in that limnal space studying, practicing, meditating, visualizing….dreaming.
Remembering how to dream.
Knowing, also, as even the scientific world attests, that we are apart of an interconnected universe, in which the smallest movement of a butterfly’s wing could actually have an effect on the whole system, I can imagine that each of us generates ripples of influence through who we are, what we do whether we love and if we pray and that someday we shall know.
(Jean Shinoda Bolen)
People who can access friendships during times of transformation and tumult, experience greater resilience. And it only takes one friend.
I’ve been so lucky! I’ve had a handful of friends this year who have listened to me, called, texted, messaged, skyped, prayed, imagined, laughed and laughed and laughed and sat quietly and taken it all in. They’ve just been present and that presence has increased my balance and made it possible to quietly move forward.
They haven’t been the friendships I’ve nurtured in the last 15 years either.
They have been super old ones from childhood and high school. And super new baby ones from my new life as an intuitive life coach.
Fascinating. (to me)
I was in the midst of a series of posts on resilience when my own life rose up in a huge distracting way and I needed to put all my mental, emotional, spiritual, financial resources toward facilitating this HUGE shift. Reserves of resilience were required.
There is soooo much research now on this topic from studying survivors + thrivers of the various holocausts around the world, survivors of abuse, survivors of extreme challenges, thrivers in business.
Dr. Borysenko says knowing the Map of the Territory (3 stages) is helpful in navigating your own life challenges and impending transformations. Sounds simple, right?
1. First you die to who you were.
It’s understanding that whether it’s an illness or a life challenge, you realize you are no longer who you were and you have yet to become who you will be.
For me, I had to die to the idea that my marriage and home life were workable. That life was clearly over. That dream died. Quickly. Unexpectedly. Once I accepted this I moved and took charge completely of creating a new beginning.
2. The Limnal Phase.
Be patient with the unknown. You are at a threshold of a new life. You are living in the time between no longer and not yet and you can’t rush through. You have lessons to learn.
So much of the last 3 years of my life felt limnal. Who was I after closing my children’s music school? Will I be able to successfully work as an intuitive life coach with my new training? Who am I without all the people and activities that kept my life in place?
Even though this crumbling of my marriage really should logically require time in the limnal phase, I feel that walking away from that world was right at the edge of my limnality.
3. The Return to Life.
This is where you come back to life. You return with a soul that is deeper, more compassionate and wiser.
I’ve moved back to the city. I’m back in the throes of the energies of a more urban life. Back at the gym. Meeting new people. I’m starting to imagine my life beyond all my losses of the last few years. I still rest more than I used to. But my appetite is returning. I’m cooking. I’m beginning to create in my art studio. I’m playing with my favorite folk orchestra again.
It’s a beginning. I’m juuust on the edge of my new life. Not always happily. Yet.
Not always able to not look back. Still I’m not imagining that old life will return. It’s over. I have a new home. I’ve accepted that many friendships will not travel with me into my new life. I’ve been shocked to discover some childhood friendships are the strongest ones in my life. I’ve leaned on them with gratitude.
I’ve had several conversations in the last few weeks where the person I’m speaking to is having an emotional struggle. I listen.
And at some point say, “You know, maybe tapping would be good for this…or a forgiveness tool…or a nap.”
In every case the other person has said, “I always forget what to do when I’m upset.”
When we are having emotional crises, our brains move into survival mode and we can become immobilized and choose actions that might not serve us well or really are just fight or flight type responses.
If I forget how to choose peace…here are some reminders…
- Breathe intentionally
- Drink water
- Use EFT (tapping). If you are talking about a trauma or something that you are upset about TAP while you talk. Even if you are talking to yourself. TAP while you think. If you are talking to a friend, TAP while you talk.
- If you can not stop crying go into the shower and TAP while you cry in there.
- Go outside + breathe the fresh air.
- Take a nap.
- If you can’t meditate, close your eyes + listen to some Baroque music for 10 minutes. Baroque music is usually played at a tempo that slow the brain down and levels your breathing.
- Put your hand on your heart and say, “I know I need to forgive somebody for something right now. I’ll do it later.”
- Buy and use Rescue Remedy!