by Susan Seale | Dec 3, 2013 | Money Priestess
Yes, today is all about the F word.
Of course, if you’ve spent a weekend in the company of extended family you may be muttering that other F word. (!)
…uh-oh…
While the original F word can be hugely satisfying + a super-charge release of energy I have another idea for you today.
Forgiveness.
I know we hear that Gratitude is the key to a more satisfying life. This is true AND not complete (in my humble opinion).
My experience is that I’ve just never seen the kind of miraculous results from a Gratitude practice that I’ve seen from a Forgiveness practice.
Pros and Cons of Forgiveness
- Forgiveness can heal physical ailments quickly. (I don’t know why exactly except I’ve experienced this myself and seen it in others.)
- Gives you an emotional lift that may override devastating financial losses.
- Releases you from the emotional pain of child abuse.
- Frees up more love in your heart which you can then share with yourself or other people.
- Allows you to live in present time, rather than past time.
- May give you the inner juice + confidence you need to walk away from abusive relationships with family, friends, lovers, work mates or bosses.
- Heals broken hearts.
- May help you live longer.
- Forgiveness releases stress.
- May erase some of the lines of age on your face.
- Will put the twinkle back in your eye.
- Creates inner peace.
- Creates emotional clarity.
- Can shorten your to-do list. (Because you’re not trying to be an action figure to hide the emotional pain you carry…yes, sometimes people/women become human doers to hide their inner pain and resentment.)
- Instant forgiveness is possible.
- There is no shelf life on the effectiveness of Forgiveness. You will feel better whether you forgive now or in twenty years. If you Forgive now you will feel better now. If you wait twenty years….why would you wait twenty years to feel better? (sheesh…)
- Not all that needs to be forgiven is easy to forgive. Sometimes Forgiveness is the last thing you want to do when you really need to do it + can most benefit from it.
- It’s not as easy as Gratitude. Forgiveness means consciously walking into the places that are shadowy and dusty + where the light has not been shining + sweeping them out.
- Sometimes Forgiveness can not be done alone. Sometimes you need a friend, supporter, guide or spiritual permission-giver to get the job done.
- We weren’t taught how to overcome the resentment feelings. Resentment feelings are the reason we DON’T forgive. As children + teens we probably practiced saying “I’m sorry” and “It’s okay” and were expected to get on with things and that all would be well. There was little attention given to where the pain was lodged after an offense + how it may sit there and the “it’s okay” was not really “okay”.
- Unforgiveness may be something you inherited from your ancestors + you may not really find it easy to let go of past hurts.
- You might not know what to put in place of the things you’ve forgiven. You may unconsciously come up with new things to have to forgive, new dramas and hurts and transgressions in your life in order to feel safe. Yes…if we’ve carried unforgiveness and resentments, they’ve got a niche inside our spirits that keep us anchored to a place in time and space. Letting that go may create feelings of insecurity. Feeling lighter and less burdened may take some getting used to!
How to Forgive
The how-to is actually another blog post.
It’s also…a live workshop (in 2014).
How to forgive is, in fact, a whole e-course…an entire digital retreat.
For today…
1.
Decide if you have something you would like to place under the light of Forgiveness.
2.
If you do, then place it there. The awareness that you have something you may like to forgive is where we all start.
Forgiveness creates miracles, expands self-love, sparks synchronicity + exposes us to a true sense of Peace on Earth.
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by Susan Seale | Nov 19, 2013 | Money Priestess
Can’t you hear it?
The theme music from a spaghetti western movie?
(Hit PLAY while you read the post…)
I know you’ve been there…
Let’s set the scene…
You’re just having a life…peacefully walking the dog, driving to the grocery store,
or something really simple like…getting out of bed
and you are attacked
by a gun-slinging outlaw Sniper Thought!
Sniper Thoughts can hit you from any direction…sometimes you can even see them coming. You tell yourself it will all be okay…and it’s NOT.
Sniper Thoughts are by nature deadly.
Sniper Thoughts interrupt a perfectly peaceful walk to convince you that
something insulting, nasty or undermining that someone said to you
or that you said to yourself
(probably yesterday or even a week ago + which you had previously dismissed)
is actually true or has some basis in truth.
If this happens to you take action …SHOOT BACK!
The Spaghetti Western Cure
1. Start humming the spaghetti western theme music
2. Slouch like a whiskered Clint Eastwood (remember…you have a cigarello hangin’ out the side of your mouth)
3. Keep your hands on your holster + your eyes on those sombrero’d sniper thoughts
4. Quickdraw! Your aim is true…(obviously..you’re Clint). Those Sniper Thoughts…dead.
5. Nod…and keep humming…
I can’t imagine those thoughts being able to hit their mark with accuracy while you’re humming Ennio’s theme music…
Honestly…it works! I challenge you to try it…
The next time you have attack thoughts…hit ’em with the Spaghetti Western Cure.
by Susan Seale | Nov 5, 2013 | Entrepreneurship
I know, I know…
…you read on everyone else’s blogs that hard work is old school.
It’s not.
Having a biz means you’ll have a load of tasks + be faced with your own fears + doubts + old, familiar, safe mindsets (that must change).
Because you are compelled to create your own biz…the one of your dreams…you are willing to work.
If you are not compelled to work, to make the call, to talk to the person, to create the product, to show up… in order to create your dream…it’s only because of this.
- You have a spiritual/emotional block.
- It’s not the biz of your dreams.
That’s it.
When I founded a music + movement school for children over 2 decades ago, it was work. It was physical work. It was also the first time I consciously chose to create out of a place of trust in the invisible realm of spirit.
People were amazed at my success (no one else was doing what I was doing and this as we know is usually NOT a good thing in biz) and people used to comment on my success. I used to say to them, “I’ve just been so lucky”.
A friend finally took me aside and said,
“Yeah…the harder you work, the luckier you get.
Stop saying it’s luck. You deserve your success. Remember that.
Most people are just not willing to put in the combo effort to spiritually, emotionally + physically call in their success.”
Are you willing to do the spiritual + emotional work? Do you even know how?
I’ve had my own businesses and been self-employed most of my life.
I’ve been surrounded by hard-working folk. Peasant-farmer types.
My mom was a role model for me on how to work hard and get results. She did not model the inner work, the gentle calling-it-in work. She may have done it but she didn’t talk about it and I didn’t see it.
These things I’ve learned on my own. I studied. I read. I paid attention.
What I’ve learned is yes, the physical effort matters and makes a big diff. I have to take action but it’s the inner work that is the magic…that allows me to laugh and enjoy the building process…to see those coincidences, miracles + unexpected lucky times.
If you’re wondering if inner spiritual type work can work for you ask yourself…
1. Was I imaginative as a child?
2. Am I willing to believe my business has a purpose beyond just making money?
Then, write down your vision and imagine it coming to life.
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by Susan Seale | Nov 4, 2013 | Entrepreneurship
My Secret Tools
Sometimes those daytimers + google calendars + digital checklists just DON’T work!
I am one of those people who LOVES planning…especially on a blank piece of paper. When the paper is clear + blank (+ my Sharpies are close by) my life becomes a potential work of art.
The humdrum can be a victory!
I know this is super low tech…it’s just the absolute best for when I must keep the blinders on and get ‘er done!
It’s my planning grid.
Here’s how to do it. Grid your paper (with colorful pens) and then list the tiny tasks that need to be done. One task inside each square of the grid.
Awesome for…
- monthly goals
- when you have multiple businesses like mine and many small tasks you will do almost anything to forget/neglect, yet they do need to be complete daily + weekly
- when your main tasks don’t need to be written down but you are working on a larger project with small steps that need to be done and you’ll not do them (cause you’re too tired) unless they are itemized and easy to see and you have a sense that they can be crossed off with a giant satisfying X
- when you have to be your own accountability partner
- when you are in overwhelm…make a grid with 8 boxes…fill them up with small tasks + be sure to include a self care item like ‘drink water’ in one box and complete. Done. Overwhelm (your inner child) says “look…I did it!”
A grid completely covered with x’s is a rainbow of satisfaction.
Yes, today is all about the F word.
