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What IS the difference between being an empath and being empathic?

What IS the difference between being an empath and being empathic?

 

As a child I constantly heard that I was too sensitive and people were frustrated with me because I was emotional.  Sometimes I used to wonder why I was the only one crying and why other people weren’t crying!

Didn’t they feel the pain of the situation that was bringing me to tears?

Now I know, they did not feel what I felt.  It wasn’t until I was an adult and took myself for years of counselling that I discovered I had a natural ability to carry other people’s burdens.  I learned phrases like “empath”  and “burden-bearer”.  They may momentarily feel empathy for whatever the situation was, but they don’t actually take the feeling home with them, they don’t identify with it and struggle to find their own center again.

Are you a burden-bearer?

If you feel like you are carrying burdens, you are.

  •  News stories may affect you in such a way that you just can’t shake the feelings from them.  If you’ve been exposed to negative stories, they seem to linger and affect your mood.  It’s not as easy for you to shake those moods.  You likely avoid the news and don’t watch TV much.  As a child I was sometimes told to watch the news because it was important to be up to date on current events.  My poor mom had NO IDEA what this did to me until one day she noticed that I was standing watching a story about someone having died in an accident and tears were streaming down my face.  I was maybe 6 or 7 years old.  Thankfully, that was the last time I had to watch the news.  I do not watch the news to this day.

 

  • You suddenly are feeling really strong emotions about a person, a topic or something and it almost seems as if these are not even your opinions or feelings. It might even feel like something has taken over inside you.  You might be asking yourself, “Why did I say that?  Why am I feeling that? I don’t know I felt that…”  It feels like it’s just not yours and sometimes you wonder “Am I THAT permeable???”  (Yes, you are but it’s actually pretty easy to shift this…ask me how.)

 

  • People are always telling you you’re too sensitive or to toughen up.  I certainly heard that one a lot growing up. (…also…”crybaby” was my nickname for a few years)

 

  • You’re a pretty good listener and people seem to tell you their troubles all the time.  In fact, you frequently find yourself having phone conversations where you never actually speak after “hello”.  The other person talks until they stop and feel better.  Unless you have the energetic skills built to withstand this, you usually leave the conversation quite deflated and tired.

 

  • You may attract people who really suck your energy and you are not sure what to do about it.  Some people refer to this as “energy vampires” but I was always afraid of vampires as a child so I don’t use that term.  I’ve learned many ways to feel great even when I can’t remove that person from my life.  I can teach you how to do this too!

 

  • It feels like people are subconsciously picking up on how goodnatured you are and sometimes when you walk into a room you feel as though you’ve stepped into a thick soup.  Almost as though your primal fight/flight/freeze/faint response has kicked in. If people are stressed, you seem to feel stressed and don’t know quite how it happened.  If people are angry or frustrated, and you weren’t before you walked into the room, you feel off balance and have this urge to hide in the bathroom or something.   It may take time before you even become aware that all those feelings are NOT YOURS.  They’ve stuck to you like a burr in the forest.

 

It’s actually not that hard to find your center and stay there.  The hard part is remembering those negative feelings are JUST NOT YOU.  It’s not your fault and it’s a beautiful sign that your boundaries are being tested. You can master this, by the way!  There are nurturing ways to care for your gifts (yes, being an empath is a gift and not a curse) and it just takes practice.

Ask me how

 

Invite goodness into your world

Invite goodness into your world

 

 

 

 

Have you received this beautiful gift yet?

Our hearts live in a transient state and gentle rituals can shift that state.

(Fill in your name below to receive this healing gift)

 

“How is your heart in this moment, with this breath?”

Look into the mirror and ask yourself this question after you have brought this anointing ritual into your day.

I would so love to hear what the oils,

the intention-setting and the boundary-strengthening brings to your heart in this moment, with this breath.

Is your heart open?

Is it aching? sad? lonely? filled with joy?

craving company?

expanded and filled with light?

xo

The School of Intention

The School of Intention

 

 

 

 

 

Feng shui is based on the principles in the Li Shu or Book of Rites, which decrees the basic priniciples of Chinese religious beliefs, with its focus on order, harmony between the heavens and earth and the adherence to a structure that will help humanity maintain the balance of nature.  (The School of Intention, Dana Claudat)

The School of Intention takes these classical principles and infuses them with modern science, modern psychology and the beautiful world of Intention…the empowerment of believing in infinite possiblity.

Our work together starts with intention.

 

It starts with the desire to know that everything is possible and we can create our own lives. 

 

The School of Intention is definitely not rooted in predictive models, mysticism or religious practices.  We are not using compasses.  We are not dealing with lucky and unlucky in determining luck or fortune.

I’ve dipped my toes into so many feng shui worlds and it wasn’t until I connected with The School of Intention, that I could feel my entire body relax.  This was a model of feng shui practice I could feel aligned with.

I don’t believe in LUCK – I believe in YOU.

The more that we believe in ourselves, the more we know that we “create” luck.  (D. Claudat)

What is intuitive counselling

What is intuitive counselling

Intuitive counselling is a conversation, a non-judgmental way of approaching the healing relationship.

Respectfully holding space for you story using a process of compassionate inquiry combined with insights I share during our intuitive readings or bodywork sessions, we bring healing to your life.

I believe there is a connections between your body’s ailments and your emotional pain to your past experiences, your diet, your environment, your thoughts and beliefs.  Whatever discomfort or imbalance you wish to address, intuitive counselling is offfered in a supportive environment, without judgment.

Working with your mind means working with the entire body.  Your body holds truth. Life situations, experiences, things you have witnessed and watched, leave traces in your being and your vibrational field.

For instance, trauma that has not been processed is stored in your body waiting for you to acknowledge it, feel it, and let it move through you.  Trauma is patient.  I can wait for decades until you feel ready, safe and open to healing that part of your life’s journey.

Sometimes it’s not that you have experienced a physical trauma but you hold limiting thoughts that create a limited experience of life. You may already know you’re doing this but you are not able to resource the change within yourself.   Together we creat a space for you to bring healing to this experience.

It’s not all conversation when bodywork is part of the healing process.  Our work together may include the use of essential oils to affect deep emotional shifts, the calming energetics provided by crystal healing, color therapy, movement therapy, nutritional suggestions, visualizations, prayer and guided meditations,

In a mind-body-soul healing process, the soul does not need healing, it is eternal and whole at all times.

Your soul brings healing to your bodymind when you give it the time and space for that to happen.

You probably know well what it feels like to be out of step with yourself and it’s not a great feeling.

 

So close your eyes right now

Simply let the idea of body-mind-soul alignment drop into your heart

and down through your belly.

Breathe in the clear, clean space that instantly appears with the idea of that connection.

 

Alignment with soul…your eternal nature…your wholeness…will bring relief, peace, wisdom and inner resourcefulness to your life.

The result for you will be greater flow in your life.  You will be able to ride the waves, storms and seasons of your life with increasing ease.

Improvising + creating a business after 50

Improvising + creating a business after 50

“If the metaphor is music, her instrument is herself and the deep theme of her song follows the beat of her heart.  Each phase is like a different movement in a major work, with variations on her theme.  Until the music ends, crones will improvise.”  Jean Shinoda Bolen

Just sayin’…